I’m starting to feel like there’s a trend of male geeks of a certain age decrying the mainstreaming of geekery, and it’s starting to make me uncomfortable.
You may have read Patton Oswalt’s recent Wired article, where he talked about how Geek Culture has to die so that it can be reborn, and longing for the days when his otaku was in tact and it was “hard” to be a geek. Now, it’s too easy. Now ANYONE can be a geek about something, and it’s ruining his little party, poor baby. When I read that article, I couldn’t help but think it came from a really privileged white male place. Not “privileged” because of money (though geekery tends to be expensive if you want to collect everything, so those with more money tend to be the geeks with the most toys), but because of the access he had to nerdly things by virtue of being a white suburban male. He might have felt all “non-conformist” at the time, but white suburban males were allowed to be that, and were being that all over the place, to the point that something like Revenge of the Nerds can get made, and the titular “nerds” are all skinny white guys. He probably hung out with one girl who was interested in the same things, and assumed the rest weren’t, or couldn’t be. (And he probably didn’t consider DATING the “cool” geek girl he hung out with, because she’s not actually a girl, you know. Not one you’d actually want to date. She’s one of the boys.) I don’t know if he hung out with any black or brown kids to play D&D, but I don’t think it’s likely.
I’m 31, and I’ve loved sci-fi (Star Trek, Ray Bradbury and Asimov books, Alien Nation, Space Camp, etc) my whole life. But I didn’t fully embrace being geeky until I was in my mid-twenties, when a friend of mine introduced me to comics by making me read Gaiman’s Sandman. Now, there’s hardly a Wednesday that goes by when I’m not at the comic shop. And what I LOVE are the efforts to reach out to new readers – readers like me – who can’t turn back the hands of time and catch up on eons of backstory, but shouldn’t have to be punished for it. I also LOVE the fact that I can go to stuff like Wikipedia (much to Oswalt’s dismay) to fill in any gaps in my comics knowledge so that I can move forward in Geek Culture, rather than be bogged down by the past.
What does this have to do with your Facebook post? :)
It seems that your gripe with Facebook has less to do with what it actually does, and more to do with what you could make it do better. Which is all very well and good. I’m glad that you’re capable of working your own website, etc. And I know that you very clearly stated in your post that people aren’t stupid for using Facebook, and that it’s just not for you, and all the other well-placed disclaimers to make sure people know you’re not elitist before you say things that make you sound like elitist…
But why did you feel the need to say it at all? And I just don’t mean here – I know you’re responding to a friend here. Why, if Facebook is fine for other people, just not for you, and if people aren’t stupid for using it, why did you feel the need to be antagonistic on Facebook about Facebook in the first place, making people feel lesser for using it? Saying “I’M smart enough to not need Facebook, but Facebook is for NORMAL people who AREN’T as smart as me” is a really elitist thing to say. And I’m pointing it out, because it’s one of several instances I’ve started to notice lately of the above-mentioned male geeks of a certain age talking crap about something that’s become mainstream. It smacks of little boys pulling up the ladder to their tree house. And I have to say that, as a Puerto Rican woman who has embraced her geekiness only within the past ten years, I am bothered when I hear that sort of thing. I think it contributes to the very climate of ostracizing and elitism that geeks are supposedly running from. So, the answer to getting picked on and not getting to play in the cool kids’ reindeer games when you’re little is, what, create NEW reindeer games that other people can’t get into? I hate that idea.
Speaking specifically to Facebook, when you say Zuckerberg isn’t a genius, I think you’re missing something. No, he might not be the best coder on the block. And yes, there were networking sites before Facebook. But I think you underestimate the brilliance of a good idea. Not just a good invention, but the idea to take a good invention and put it out there at the right time to the right people. Yes, Zuckerberg was a dick, but honestly, he took an idea and ran with it well. Had Facebook not gotten off the ground, for whatever reason, he wouldn’t have been sued, and no one would’ve cared. People only started caring when it started making money. And that just seems like sour grapes. You call it “the largely accidental advantage of being upmarket first.” But, that’s everything. Anyone can have an idea, but ideas are nothing if you do nothing with them, and I think that a big part of genius is knowing when to move on an idea rather than shove it in a drawer (or a folder on your desktop). I’m not saying he did everything (or anything) right in handling any of this. But I am saying that he’s not the only person in that scenario not handling things properly.
Lastly, re: Facebook and privacy – now, I’m not a shy person. I put myself out there on the internet pretty much as is (I don’t use Facebook filters either, because I present the same self to my friends that I do to their kids or their parents), and the things I don’t want people to know, I don’t put online at all. I always think it’s funny when people talk about internet privacy, because seriously, there’s no way to have it. Even if every website were policing privacy 24/7, all it takes is a good hacker and your info is out there to anyone who wants it. The only way to guarantee internet privacy is to not use the internet. It makes me laugh in particular when people get angry at Facebook re: privacy, because there’s absolutely nothing on your Facebook profile that you didn’t put there yourself! And I’m all “It’s not Facebook’s fault you were dumb enough to put those drunk, naked pictures of yourself up, and your boss did a Google search and found them!” *sigh*
Wow. I pretty much wrote a blog post in your comments. Sorry. But I lurk around the site a lot, and comment infrequently, so consider this several days’ worth of comments. :)